Everything's going swell.

It's coming to our 2nd anniversary of the day we took Jnr our of school.

We have been deschoooling-transitioning to homeschooling to dipping our toes in unschooling for the first 8 months. Followed by 9 months of rocky transition of letting go of expectations of results, of me learning to saying Yes more and less of No, me learning to not let any opinions or rules stop us from doing alot of things. And most of all, no co-ercion or structured lessons.

6 months later, life settled into a comfortable "confident" routine which is leading us to our 2nd anniversary of "education without school" in December.


Jnr is happy and confident. He is very aware of what is happening and is constantly absorbing up everything around him. I have managed to bridge my existance equally to his. So most of the time now, I do look at him equally, as a human being and not so much of as an adult to a child.

This dynamics gives an automatic provision of me allowing him plenty of freedom and space allowing him plenty of life decisions practice, promoting maturity and confidence. Inturn, it allowed me plenty of opportunity to understand and know my son.

We have relinquished all workbooks and don't do any curriculum or syllabbus anymore.


Our learnings can be found via playing. From pc educational games, reading lots of stories, playing with ps2 games and setting up train sets and building Lego.

Recently, Jnr's into Nintendog. So he can always be found training, feeding and grooming his 3 Nintendogs called Cutie, Nacho and Waffles. He named them all, on his own. From a kid who doesn't like animals, I am so proud to see him blossoming into a pet owner wannabe. We're even talking about having a real pet.

We're also into video watching on bed now. So we're catching up on lots more stories via the video. Yesterday, we've finished watching The Adventures of Baron Munchausen.


I've realised I've have successfully merged into unschooling when I am able to approach everyday as a new, unexpected day. My days now is like a new present unveiling itself. Everything my son does, is an eye opener for me.

Like what I wrote in response to another unschooler's plea for help.

Your child is a Flower. It will unfurl and blossom in all pace and directions. You will not tell the Flower that it's unfurling the wrong petal, will you? Or tell it that it is blossoming only on one side first, and that it's wrong because it's supposed to blossom sysmetrically, will you? Will you tell that flower that it is blossoming wrong, and turn out ugly?

Of course not. You step back and wait patiently, having full confidence that the flower will bloom fully.

So think of your child like a Flower blooming his/ her petals in different direction and paces. Every day of tv watching, or ps2 playing is just petals unfurling.

Eventually, your beautiful Flower will unfurl each and every petal and become a balance Blossom, in perfect sysmetrics.


My advice to get to this stage of happy and confident unschooling life?

Patience. Lots of it. It will be very very testing, difficult and rocky in the beginning. When will it get easier, is entirely up to you.

Determination. This is what you want. Wanting the best for your kids is what you want. So, Never give up no matter how difficult and hard.

Confidence. That you will get there eventually.

Focus. When the going gets tough, regain your perspective by focusing why you're doing this in the first place. Look far and imagine what sort character you will wish for your kid. I always visualised a happy, confident and content man. That's my focus.

Be Free. Let go of all your dos and don'ts and start being carefree with your decisions. If it won't kill your kid, then why not try it out?

Be adventurous. Until you try something out, you won't know the result. How would you know eating cupcakes all the time will make your kid sick, unless you have tried it?

How would you know your kid will stop staring at the tv? You won't, until you've tried it and trust me, they will stop staring at the tv. It's only a matter of when. So how would you know how long will it take your kids to get fed-up and walk away from that tv screen? Well, you won't know until you've tried it.